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1 Women- Prisoners abused the world over
Updated: 19 Dec 2011

Force-fed and beaten – life for women in jail

New UN guidelines are being flouted worldwide, Independent on Sunday research shows

Female prisoners around the world are being subjected to body cavity searches, beatings and force-feeding, are held in padded cells, shackled during childbirth, and made to work in chain gangs.

 Some of the worst conditions are in developing countries, but there are also serious abuses and overcrowding in Europe and North America.

These are the major findings of a survey by The Independent on Sunday to mark the first anniversary of United Nations rules governing the treatment of women in prison.

The "Bangkok Rules" make stipulations about contact with families, gender-specific healthcare, psychological treatment and hygiene, and they forbid strip searches in most circumstances.

The guidelines were adopted on 21 December 2010, but reports from around the world show they are being widely flouted.

In Greece, for example, prisoners have been offered a choice between a vaginal search and solitary confinement on a course of laxatives.

Chinese prison officers encouraged inmates to tie each other up and fight. In Turkmenistan, prisoners are shackled to their beds as they give birth - a practice that is also legal in most of the United States.

South African prisoners complain that they run out of water on an almost monthly basis.

A Russian male deputy prison governor was jailed for beating female inmates with his fists and boots.

Rape victims have been jailed in Afganistan for having extramarital sex.

And women's prisons from Russia to Canada, France to Australia have been condemned for their appalling living conditions and inadequate mental and physical healthcare.

Just as alarming is the steep rise in the number of women being jailed. More than 500,000 are in prison around the world. In the US alone, there are now eight times more women in prison than 30 years ago.

Fiona Cannon, who chairs the Prison Reform Trust's Women's Justice Taskforce, said women's prisons are now seen as "stop-gap providers of drug detox, social care, mental health assessment and treatment, and temporary housing".

Self-harm and suicide are far more common among female prisoners than male, relatively few women are in jail for violent crimes, a majority have children, and many are drug addicts or victims of sexual abuse.

At Johannesburg Women's Prison, cells typically contain one toilet, one sink, one shower and as many as 40 people. Prisoners are locked in from 2pm to 8am.

"People can kill each other before they unlock the cells," Duduzile Matlhabadile, a former prisoner, told The IoS. "You don't know what's going to happen. It's not safe in there."

Ms Matlhabadile, who served 12 years for armed robbery and homicide, recalled an incident in which a woman threw boiling water over a fellow prisoner; it took two hours for the guards to come and open the doors. She said her cell would often be without water for two days at a time.

A former judge inspector of prisons in South Africa, Deon van Zyl, last year called the country's prison conditions "shockingly inhumane".

Campaigners at the Wits Justice Project, which investigates problems in South Africa's justice system, say the Department of Correctional Services has ignored their requests to gain access to prisons since February, adding that anecdotal evidence indicates conditions have not improved.

In northern Turkmenistan, inmates at the Dashoguz Women's Prison colony are reportedly handcuffed to the bed from both sides while giving birth.

The baby is given away and the woman returns to forced labour a day or two later.

More than 2,000 women are housed in a colony built for 1,000. Fights break out when food is handed out: black bread, porridge and a thin soup made of bones, cotton oil and pumpkin make up the daily diet.

The EU has its share of horrors, too. Greece's Thiva Women's Prison is an hour north of Athens.

A former detoxification centre, it has the bleak atmosphere of a converted warehouse. Its dormitories each hold six bunk beds and a couple of single beds.

A communal area features a concrete floor, dark green walls and little else; the exercise yard contains no equipment or shelter. Messages are conveyed to inmates via a loudspeaker.

 Vaginal searches are conducted there, as in other women's prisons in Greece.

Until earlier this year, prisoners who refused a vaginal examination on arrival were placed in a segregation unit for several days and made to take laxatives.

Authorities say vaginal searches are now undertaken only in exceptional circumstances and are now done by trained doctors, rather than by nursing assistants.

They say laxatives are no longer administered, but monitors from the European Committee for the Prevention of Torture confirmed that the practice was still going on when they visited in January.

In France, strip searches are more or less routine, and inmates' letters seen by The IoS complain about being made to adopt degrading positions.

One pregnant woman was told to lift up her breasts while being searched before being permitted to see her family in the visiting room.

But the real problem in France's prisons is healthcare. In the mixed-sex Nîmes Prison in southern France, for example, there is no facility for gynaecological examinations, which means that no preventative consultations are done.

In England and Wales, conditions are far more benign, but the number of women in jail has increased from 1,800 in 1996 to 4,100 now.

More than half of female prisoners say that they have suffered domestic violence, 37 per cent have previously attempted suicide, nearly 40 per cent left school before 16, and one in three have experienced sexual abuse.

More than two-thirds of female prisoners have children, which means, according to Home Office research in 2003, that prison deprives nearly 20,000 children of their mothers each year.

 And judges do not take into account whether a defendant is a primary carer.

"It's deeply ingrained in judges that a child must not be an excuse to avoid imprisonment," said Rona Epstein, who has studied 47 cases in England and Wales where judges have ignored the rights of the child.

The situation in North America is worse. The California state prison healthcare system has been in federal receivership since 2006.

To get healthcare and living conditions to a constitutional minimum, the state has been ordered to reduce its prison population by 33,000 over the next two years. In the meantime, supplies of medicines and sanitary products are limited, and understaffing means prisons are in lock-down mode.

Two-thirds of education staff have been laid off in the past two years, and all the while the prison population continues to rise.

The state's two biggest female prisons are both in the desert town of Chowcilla. Valley State Prison is designed to hold 2,024 people and is currently housing 3,810. Central California Women's Facility is holding 3,918, far more than its 2,004 capacity. Cells originally built for four people are holding 10.

"We've never, ever had the reports of violence among peers that we're seeing now," said Cynthia Chandler, the director of the women's campaign group Justice Now.

 "People are dirty, their cells are dirty, they're bleeding on themselves, they're emotional and in a state of despair. It's creating conditions inside a pressure cooker."

And, across the border in Arizona, female chain gangs are made to bury the dead and clear wasteland in the desert heat, in a scheme introduced by Sheriff Joe Arpaio in June.

Andrew Coyle, director of the International Centre for Prison Studies at London University, said: "Scandinavian practice in general terms is better than in many other countries.

That's because they put fewer people in prison, and the consequence is they can run them more decently and humanely. The criminal justice system is kept for those who need to be locked up for the sake of society.

"Reducing reoffending is a false target. It's based on the premise that sending someone to prison makes them less likely to commit crime.

In fact, one of the strongest predictors of future offending is being sent to prison.

We know the solutions: more community-based facilities and putting women in small units close to home.

The answers are there. They're just not being implemented."

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2 Women- Can you keep a secret, dear ?
Updated: 13 Nov 2011

Can you keep a secret, dear? Of course (for 32 minutes at least)

By Daily Mail Reporter

Last updated at 10:02 PM on 11th November 2011

Share your deepest secrets with her, and she will no doubt promise never to tell.

But beware of putting your trust in a woman – for the likelihood is she will have broken your confidence barely half an hour later, a study has shown.

Researchers discovered that 85 per cent of females relish hearing juicy titbits of gossip but many are unable to keep it under wraps for long

Researchers found that women are overcome by the desire to gossip and can typically wait  no longer than 32 minutes before spilling the beans.

Depending on who the gossip is about, their husband, mother or best friend are most likely to be the initial recipients of the information.

 
The study of 3,000 women by facial skincare brand Simple found one in ten admits being unable to keep a secret – no matter how  personal or confidential the news is.
And  85 per cent said they relish hearing gossip  from others.

But many women are putting themselves at risk of betrayed confidences, the survey revealed, with nearly half saying they often felt the need to offload their secrets to someone.

Almost half questioned said that they often felt the need to offload their secrets to someone while a sneaky 13 per cent said they intentionally relayed gossip so that it would spread.

A spokesman for Simple said: 'This poll clearly shows that women really struggle to keep secrets.

'Spilling the beans in just 32 minutes is very fast work, but with modern technology someone's juicy secret can be spread to huge amount of people all over the world in a very short space of time.

‘We are all guilty of sharing people’s secrets but there is a  difference between idle chit-chat and sharing someone’s most sacred secret.’

And Dr Christine Bundy, senior lecturer in health and medical psychology at the University of Manchester, said: 'Women need to decide what to reveal and what to keep to themselves, putting themselves into the position of a friend or family member.

'If they believe that it will cause upset by sharing their secret, it's probably advisable to keep it under wraps - especially if it's personal or important.

‘Everyone remembers a betrayal and it is probably not worth it for a bit of gossip.'



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3 Women- Why men put up with vituperation ?
Updated: 04 Oct 2011

 

Verbal abuse is a form of battery that involves the use of words, rather than blows and punches.

In a verbally abusive situation, words are used to attack, control, and inflict harm on another person.

Verbally abusive behavior goes far beyond mean behavior; it involves inflicting psychological violence on another person, attacking the very nature of an individual's being and attempting to destroy his or her spirit.

Verbal abuse can affect people of all ages and in all types of relationships. However, it is especially prevalent in marital relationships.

A number of behaviors are considered verbally abusive, including angry outbursts, screaming rages, and name-calling.

Verbal abuse often includes blaming, brainwashing, and intimidation.

Hidden aggression is a part of verbal abuse, as well.

Verbal abuse is extremely manipulative, as insults are often disguised as caring comments.

Verbal abuse can be overt or covert, but it is always about controlling and manipulating the victim.

Often, verbally abusive comments are offered as jokes.

When the target of the joke is hurt or insulted, the verbal abuser laughs it off and says that the victim is overly sensitive.

However, the intent of the verbal abuser is to cause this hurt.

After a time, verbal abuse often escalates into physical abuse.

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4 SAUDI ARABIAN WOMEN GET MORE BASIC RIGHTS AND FRANCHISE - WOMEN
Updated: 26 Sep 2011

 

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2011/sep/25/saudi-arabia-women-vote-elections

 Saudi Arabia gives women right to vote

 Saudi women will have the right to stand for office and vote in future local elections, says King Abdullah

       Reuters

 guardian.co.uk, Sunday 25 September 2011 13.44 BST

Article history

 

 

Beskrivning: King Abdullah of Saudi Arabia

 King Abdullah of Saudi Arabia. Photograph: Hassan Ammar/AP

 Saudi Arabia's King Abdullah has said women will have the right to stand and vote in future local elections and join the advisory Shura council as full members.

 "Because we refuse to marginalise women in society in all roles that comply with sharia, we have decided, after deliberation with our senior ulama [clerics] and others … to involve women in the Shura council as members, starting from the next term," Abdullah, 87, said in a speech.

 "Women will be able to run as candidates in the municipal election and will even have a right to vote," he added.

 Liberal activists in the country have long called for greater rights for women, who are barred from travelling, working or having medical operations without the permission of a male relative and are forbidden from driving.

 The changes will come after elections on Thursday, in which women are barred from voting or standing for office.

 "This is great news," said Wajeha al-Huwaider, a Saudi writer and women's rights activist. "Women's voices will finally be heard.

 "Now it is time to remove other barriers like not allowing women to drive cars and not being able to function, to live a normal life without male guardians."

 The king did not address the issue of women being allowed to drive. Although there is no written law against women driving, they are not issued licences, effectively banning the practice.

A campaign this summer by women who broke Saudi law by driving on the kingdom's city streets prompted some arrests.

 Women in Saudi Arabia must also have written approval from a male guardian - a father, husband, brother or son - to leave the country, work or even undergo certain medical operations.

 Activists in the country have long called for greater rights for women.

Ruled by an absolute monarchy supported by conservative Wahhabi clerics, Saudi Arabia is a conservative country where religious police patrol the streets to ensure public segregation between men and women.

 King Abdullah has long been pushing cautious political reforms, but in a country where conservative clerics and senior members of the ruling family oppose even minor changes, liberalisation has been very gradual.

 Despite calls on social media for widespread protests in Saudi Arabia during the Arab Spring pro-democracy protests in the Middle East and north Africa, the only noteworthy demonstrations were confined to the country's east, which is home to the country's Shia minority.

 Saudi Arabia will hold only its second nationwide elections in recent memory on Thursday for seats on local councils, but critics of the ruling al-Saud family say the poll, in which voting is limited to men, is a charade.

 Supporters of the absolute monarchy say the elections are designed to give Saudis a greater say in politics, but critics point out that the elections are for only half the seats on councils that have few powers.

 The Shura council, which vets legislation but cannot veto it or enforce changes, is fully appointed by the king.

 "Despite the issue of the effectiveness of these councils, women's involvement in them was necessary. Maybe after women join there will be other changes," said Naila Attar, who organised the Baladi (Arabic for My Country) campaign calling for women's involvement in the local council elections.

 "I believe this is a step to involve women in the public sphere. It is the top of the pyramid and a step in the direction for more decisions regarding women."

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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5 WOMEN- CAN SHE REALLY MAKE YOU THAT HAPPY ?
Updated: 02 Sep 2011

Happy and Sad

  A husband and wife were sitting watching a TV program about psychology
  and explaining the phenomenon of "mixed emotions".  The husband turned 

  to his wife and said, "Honey, that is a bunch of crap. I bet you can't tell me
  anything that will make me happy and sad at the same time. 


 Description: Description: cid:1.3097219863@web87005.mail.ird.yahoo.com 
 
She said: "Out of all your friends, you have the biggest dick."

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6 WOMEN- FILIPINA'S - UNDERSTANDING TAMPO
Updated: 02 Sep 2011

Tampo 

If you’re planning to enter into a relationship with a Filipina, it’s important to gain an understanding of what “tampo” is.  Let’s do this in a clinical fashion... 

Definition: While the analogy isn’t perfect, you can think of tampo as “pouting” or “sulking”. 

Cause: Typically, a Filipina will exhibit tampo when she feels she has been neglected or ignored, but she may also invoke it when she is jealous, or basically anytime her feelings are hurt.   

Symptoms: The Filipina will seem withdrawn or sullen.  She may be unusually silent, or she may express he dissatisfaction by “whining” in a melodramatic, almost child-like fashion.  She may refuse to eat (only in the most severe cases!). 

Duration and Severity of Condition:  Tampo is a strictly short-term condition and should not be considered life threatening.  Tampo is the result of mild dissatisfaction, not of actual anger.  The behavior is a cultural norm in the Philippines and a westerner should not be overly concerned the first time he encounters it.  Tampo is a very useful tool, because it allows a Filipina to show her displeasure about something you have done.  Remember, confrontation is generally unacceptable in Filipino society, so disagreement or displeasure must be expressed indirectly.   

Here is an example of tampo:  You’re with your fiancée walking hand-in-hand down a crowded street.  You notice a beautiful young woman walking toward you wearing a tank top that’s cut way too low, and you can’t tear your eyes away from her.  Your fiancée notices this behavior.   

A non-Filipina might react by saying, “Put your eyes back in your head!  I can’t believe you were staring at that girl right in front of me!  What has she got that I haven’t got!?”  At which point she may stalk off, cry, or punch you. 

A Filipina in that same situation, however, would probably squeeze your hand and say something like, “She’s pretty, di ba?”  Then you’d stammer something about not noticing, blah, blah, blah, and you’d think you’d gotten away with it.  Yet your fiancée would seem suddenly distant.  She’d not proffer her hand to you as you walked together, she’s speak only when spoken to, and she’d probably shrug indifferently when you asked her a question.  You’re on the receiving end of tampo. 

It’s very important that you understand this: Tampo is merely intended to let you know that you’ve committed some minor offense, for which you must make amends.  It is a mild behavioral reprimand that verges on role-playing.  The worst thing you could do is to get stressed out over a tampo session, because an over-reaction on your part may escalate the situation to the point that your fiancée or wife becomes genuinely angry.    

On the other hand, don’t misdiagnose genuine anger, sadness, or depression as mere tampo.  If you’re girlfriend, fiancée or wife seems deeply depressed, that is NOT tampo.  If she’s crying hysterically, that is NOT tampo.  If she’s hurling dishes at you, that is NOT tampo.  Tampo is mild and controlled and is the direct result of some perceived offense of a minor nature.  It is short in duration.  If an emotional abnormality seems unusually severe or extended in duration, and you cannot identify the cause, it is not tampo, and consequently deserves serious attention. 

Treatment:  Should you suspect that a Filipina you care for is displeased with you, and is expressing that displeasure through tampo, you have several options: 

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7 WOMEN- THE NAKED TRUTH ?
Updated: 30 Aug 2011
Why I'm  Divorced

Last week was my birthday and I didn't feel very well waking up on that morning.

I went downstairs for breakfast hoping my husband would be pleasant and say,
'Happy Birthday!',  and possibly have a small present for me.

As it turned out, he barely said good morning, let alone ' Happy Birthday.'

I thought....well, that's marriage for you, but the kids.... they will remember.

My kids came bouncing down stairs to breakfast and didn't say a word.  So when I left for the office I felt pretty low and somewhat despondent.

As I walked into my office, my handsome boss Rick, said, 'Good morning, lady, and by the way Happy Birthday!'  It felt a little better that at least someone had remembered.

I worked until one o'clock, when Rick knocked on my door and said, 'You know, It's such a beautiful day outside, and it is your birthday, what do you say we go out to lunch, just you and me.'
 
I said, 'Thanks, Rick, that's the greatest thing I've heard all day. Let's go!'
 
We went to lunch. But we didn't go where we normally would go. He chose instead a quiet bistro with a private table.  We had two martinis each and I enjoyed the meal tremendously.
 
On the way back to the office, Rick said, 'You know,  It's such a beautiful day...we don't need to go straight back to the office, do we?'
 
I responded, 'I guess not. What do you have in mind?'

He said, 'Let's drop by my place, it's just around the corner.'
 
After arriving at his house, Rick turned to me and said, 'If you don't mind, I'm going to step into the bedroom for just a moment. I'll be right back.'

'Ok.' I nervously replied.
 
He went into the bedroom and, after a couple of minutes, he came out carrying a huge birthday cake, followed by my husband, my kids, and dozens of my friends and co-workers, all singing 'Happy Birthday'.
 
And I just sat there....
 
on the couch....
 
naked.

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